I once had a friend come over to help me through a chaotic week. She smiled as she pushed the pile of socks out of the way so she could sit on my couch, and exclaimed “You keep your socks in the same place we do!”
Hospitality is stressful when we try to impress people. If we wait until we have a clean house and fresh baked cookies to have someone over, we may never have guests. Even if we managed to host the perfect pinterest playdate, it would be counterproductive. Our attempts to impress can easily intimidate, and if we draw too much attention to what we can do or how perfect we can appear we will draw each other away from connecting as our true selves.
Real hospitality is not stressful. It’s not full of “what did I get myself into?!” questions, 2am preparations, or sighs of frustration. Fearless hospitality is giving what we have generously and sharing our thoughts and feelings humbly. It’s being present and ready to listen compassionately. It’s opening our doors without complaining, and knowing with confidence that we are enough. It is being unashamed of the crumbs between our couch cushions or circles under our eyes and knowing that God’s grace flows through hot coffee and box-mix muffins, because God’s grace flows through us.
Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling. Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God’s grace in its various forms. -1 Peter 4:9 (NIV)
Fearless Hearts in Action: An invitation to invest 15 minutes in yourself on your journey to Fearless Friendship
Invite someone over for a playdate tomorrow, or your next available moment. Keep calling or messaging mamas until you find someone who is available. Don’t worry about cleaning up or preparing refreshments. Invite them into your real life, and be your real self. You have a gift of presence and self to offer them in love. You may be surprised to learn that they keep their clean socks on the couch too!
*This post is the 3rd post of a 5 day series, Fearless Friendship.